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On August 10th, FibroDAZE is excited to be hosting PFAM and the theme is “Your Happy Place.” (We’ve all heard the expression “Find your Happy Place.” That may be a tough thing to do as a chronic chick. So this edition of PFAM asks “Where’s your Happy Place?” )
I had some trouble trying to come up with my happy place.
To be honest, I don’t know if I have a happy place. I am able to do things that helps reduce stress or pass the time, but that is now more of a reactionary thing I do as a result of having a chronic illness.
Pre-illness, I probably would have said going out Sunday mornings for breakfast and then doing some window shopping or walking around downtown and relaxing by the canal. I worked in a department with a bunch of people, so doing something by myself for a couple of hours was wonderful.
Post-illness is an entirely new ballgame for me. I’m not able to go out and do much. If I want or need to go somewhere, I go by taxi. which costs money. Buses make me dizzy and most of my friends don’t have access to a car. Most of the time I stick pretty close to home.
Currently, my definition of a happy place is where I go to escape when I’m tired of dealing with situations or with people who are stressing me the &%$@ out. But, for me, that is dealing and reacting to things so that I calm down and destress. I want and need a happy place where I enter happy, not as a stress relief.
So, I think my stock answer at the moment is to say reading, music, or going on the internet. I do find the internet a wonderful escape and time waster (I’m saying that in a good way). And if my happy place is the place I can escape to, then the internet is probably it.
But, this question has me thinking of changing my definition of a happy place. I want it to be a place where I want to go and stay happy, not a place I have to go so I can calm down. Lately, I’ve been thinking about different crafts I can do while considering I have to do it in my room or something I can easily take if I go somewhere. And if my ears start bothering me and brain fog kicks in, I need something I can put away and not worry about anything I may be in the middle of doing.
I have some drawing supplies, coloured pencils, watercolour pencils, pastels and 2 sketching books. I have found a place for free drawing lessons on the internet that I’m going to try. I’ve also been looking at jewelry making and will probably do that. I had taken an introductory class years ago that taught the basics of making an earring and a necklace and I enjoyed it.
So, my happy place looks like it will be an activity where I can learn and create something. It will be something I want to do, something I will be learning to do, which will help with this older mind of mine. And I may end up with something that I can wear or hang on my walls.