Self-Love Sunday: Fall In Love With Yourself First


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Happy Valentine’s Day!

Do you love yourself? Have you ever fallen in love with yourself? Or, if being honest, have you thought about falling in love with yourself?

There is the common phrase that to love others we must love ourselves first. But, life is busy for many of us, sometimes overwhelming. And we are putting every one and every thing else first.

It’s time to put yourself first.

Leo Babauta from Zen Habits has written an article about falling in love with yourself where he shares his thoughts in three areas: What is Falling in Love, How to Start and An Ongoing Romance.

He talks in generalized examples about what happens when we fall in love,


  • We meet someone interesting.
  • We get to know them.
  • We appreciate the little things.
  • We start to trust.
  • We get love from them, and return it.

and he then takes you through each of the actions and talks about how to apply each one to falling in love with yourself.

Kassy Scarcia, a life and career empowerment coach, has an article on Huffington Post where she talks about 7 Ways to Fall in Love With Yourself. Her 7 tips are:

  • Make a List of 10 Things You Love About Yourself Everyday
  • Take It a Step Further and Read Your List In Front of a Mirror Each Day
  • Practice Saying No
  • Ask 5 People in Your Life What They Love About You
  • Give Yourself an Act of Self-Love Each Day
  • Make a Self-Love Vision Board
  • Declare Yourself A No Self-Judgment Zone

If you think tip #1 is too hard, refer to my post from last week about saying something positive about yourself which includes a chart of over 150 ways you can wonderfully describe yourself.

I hope these two articles give you some ideas about falling in love with yourself and that you are able to spend this Valentine’s Day how you choose.



I Made The Guys Blue Balls For Valentine’s Day

Welcome to adventures in cooking with moi. I was recently given a box of white cake mix. We’re not big cake eaters, but I have read about cake pops and thought I would give it a try.

Here’s a video so that you know how it’s supposed to be done.

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I decided to make the balls red. Now, since the guys I live with are “meh” towards Valentine’s Day, I decided to also make some blue balls for Anti-Valentine’s Day. Blue balls sounds evil for the guys, but they do have a sense of humour. And one of them always squirms. I live to see him squirm when I do stuff like this.

To the fun part! I made the cake mix according to the directions on the box. I split the batter in half and added red food dye to one half and blue food dye to the other half and baked them. I started this late at night (it seemed like a good idea at the time) and put them in freezer bags so it could be completed the next day. The cake can be put in the freezer if you want to make the balls at a later time.

When it’s time to form the balls, you crumble the cake in a bowl and add 1 cup of frosting. I used buttercream frosting because I was making them and I love buttercream frosting.

My Vice: I can eat that stuff right out of the can, I don’t need cake. If I have a craving, it’s the frosting I want. I’ve had the cake mix for a while and thought I would do it last month. Our little secret, I went through a couple of cans of frosting rather than make the cake pops.

I added 1/2 cup frosting to each colour and formed them into balls. I thought the mixture would be very sweet but it was a really nice balance of cake and frosting and not too sweet.

The blue balls are actually darker than what they seem in this picture. The colour you see of the cake that is in the freezer bags are a pretty good match to the final product.

Now, this part, gentle readers, is where you learn from my missteps. I had a bag of white chocolate chips that I was using as the icing that covers the balls. At this time, I really need to point out that I haven’t done anything like this in years. What I should have  done was read some instructions to reaquaint myself on how to melt chocolate. What I did was go blindly into the realm of lessons long forgotten and I went ahead and melted some of the chips in the microwave at a reduced power. They came out fine. However, after dipping a couple of the balls I realized it was still too thick. The video says to add a bit of shortening to the chocolate so that it will become thinner. I, of course, had no shortening so I added some of the buttercream icing which has some sort of fat in it. I knew it wasn’t the same as shortening but, what the hey. Fat is fat, right? Especially when the fat seems to be of a similar nature.

It didn’t work.

This is when I reaquainted myself with the instructions on different ways to thin melted chocolate. I warmed up a bit of milk and added it to the melted chocolate. Cold milk might have made the chocolate seize. Then the icing became too thin. Again, learn from me, read some instructions on how to melt chocolate. I ended up using the whole bag of chips. I finally got a decent consistency. It was a bit thicker than I would have liked, but it was ok. 

Well, here’s the finished product. It came out ok considering I’ve never made it before. The white chocolate pooled at the bottom of each pop because it was thicker than it should have been and I didn’t let all of the chocolate drain off before putting them on the sheet. And I waited until I had dipped all the balls in the chocolate before adding the sprinkles. Do a few balls and then add sprinkles. The chocolate will not have cooled and more of the sprinkles will stay on the chocolate.

I may get some more white chocolate, I’m not sure yet. N0, I made up my mind. Not getting the chocolate. I will just give them out and let the guys eat blue balls for Anti-Valentine’s Day. I will probably not make these again, but that’s only due to personal taste.

The best part of making the balls? Adding the frosting to the cake and squishing it by hand to mix them together. If you have kids helping you make cake pops, that will probably be the part they will enjoy the most too.

Sunday Love Quotes

(All images from We Heart It)

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and I thought I would find some quotes on love to share with everyone.

Even after all this time,
The sun never says to the earth,
“You owe me.”
Look what happens with
A love like that.
It lights the whole sky.

– Hafiz of Persia

If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.

– Maya Angelou

Experience is how life catches up with us and teaches us to love and forgive each other.

– Judy Collins

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.

– Barbara De Angelis

We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.

– Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama

Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so.

– David Grayson